Dealing with anticipation, big objectives and dreams
The power of the mindset is the key to success.
A big goal wouldn’t be truly meningful if it didn’t create sensations in our body and mind. Big objectives move us.
The question is how we handle that motion, because it is a very strong force. So strong that it can move our mountains, but handled badly it may as well destroy our dream and confidence.
This is the power of our mindset.
Ambitions, dreams, goals… they can easily make us sweat just by the thought. Have you felt the pulse rise as you think about a big and meaningful objective of yours?
I think most sportswomen and sportsmen have felt the power of a dream, how it take shape inside, inside the mind and how it transforms into something that gives us motivation to work hard. And I think that most people have experienced that a big dream doesn’t come alone. With it often follows expectations, tension and sometimes even fear.
I have felt that many times. All of it. The fear too. But in contraditction to what some may think, the fear has not much to do with the actual execution of the activity, or the mountain itself. I find those dangers much more easy to handle and they don’t scare me in advance like an ambition can do. No, the fear has to do with my own expectations and a fear of not performing the way I was hoping or expecting myself to do. Or ideas about what other expect. Another fear can be about not achieving a goal that was important to me.
Many elite athletes have felt these things and the subject is not at all unique, but infact very common.
Note that all of it has to do with our mindset and pre-expectations.
So, as much as dreams and ambitions can motivate us and give us meaning, they can also scare the shit out of us. Nervosity, anxiety, fear, you name it. But, usually all of these are things that has to do with the result of our upcoming objective, and our anticipations.
In order to learn to handle the powerful force of the mindset, I have started to work with the coach and communication expert Carina Vinberg at Framgångare, in Stockholm Sweden. Carina works with both sports athletes, business managers, companies and people who aim for top level performances and to focus right to enhance their success.
Dealing with the power of the mind
Performance anxiety doesn’t bring me any joy. It doesn’t make me perform better. If I let my mind stay in the thought of the result, I quickly end up feeling the power of the expectation. And this power can either work positively or negatively with my mind, having a huge impact on how I persue my training.
In order to enjoy and perform well here, and only here, right now, I need to be here. Not in the thoughts about tomorrow.
I can work with a big objective in mind, but I must focus on the things that bring me joy now. I often find this game of focussing like walking on a narrow balance beam. It is a balance to allow my dream inspire and motivate me just as much as I need to keep the fire, yet, staying focused on the process of being present in the moment and enjoy the journey.
The more of a competitive instinct you have, the tougher I think it is. Competitiveness is a quality because it can push you forward like a stream, but it can also demotivate you if you let a negative mindset destroy your strive.
This winter has been my very best so far. Looking back at the 2015 season, I have realized many of the dreams I had for the winter, such as skiing some of the more adventurous mountain descents in the Mont Blanc Massif i.e. the NNE face of Les courtes and climbing the big ice fall Repentace Super WI6 in Cogne etc…Objectives that earlier gave me goose bumps by just the thought of it…
I realize that I had the key to enter there this winter because I was ready, both physically and mentally. I think I would have been physically ready for some of those adventures even earlier years, but my mind wouldn’t. And in order to get a good experience, you need the mind to be. This is simple honesty.
In February I started working with Carina. But why need a coach when performing the best you’ve ever had?
Because I have realized what a powerful tool our brain is and the beautiful journey in the mountains this winter has given me a deeper understanding of what is important. Mountain experiences bring us closer to our inner being. I have felt the force and I want to unlock the door to an even stronger dimension of what the experience can be like. And I want to realize my dreams.
It feels great to have a coach like Carina to help me bring out the best. I start to understand that working with the mind is much bigger (and sometimes harder) than any mountain experience, but I am convinced that it can help me realizing the biggest mountain experiences.
Read more about Framgångare and coach Carina Vinberg here (in Swedish).
Big objectives move us. When we move slowly we can move with them, in harmony.
Thank you Carina !